1 2 3 4 5    My actions are guided by how I think the other person will react or respond.

1 2 3 4 5    I tend to help others out even if it means that I suffer or lose out.

1 2 3 4 5    I lie or withhold the truth to protect myself.

1 2 3 4 5     I find myself covering for another person's behavior.

1 2 3 4 5     I have marked or counted alcohol bottles, made notes/recorded other people's conversations, searched for hidden drugs or secrets, or in other ways monitored someone else's behavior

1 2 3 4 5     I spend a great deal of time talking about, and being too concerned with, other people's behavior, problems, or future.

1 2 3 4 5    Things must be "just so" for me to feel comfortable.

1 2 3 4 5     I try to protect others from making mistakes, whether they ask for my help or not.

1 2 3 4 5     My mental attention is on pleasing you.

1 2 3 4 5     My social circle has diminished significantly since becoming involved with a spouse or child.

1 2 3 4 5     I put aside my values in order to stay with or be connected with another.

1 2 3 4 5     The quality of my life is in direct relation to the quality of yours.

1 2 3 4 5     I am a control-a-holic type person.

1 2 3 4 5     I am not so aware of how I feel. But I am aware of how you feel.

1 2 3 4 5     I attend more than one workshop/personal growth seminar per month.

1 2 3 4 5     I am slow to be aware of or feel the pain when people hurt me.

1 2 3 4 5     The less nice a person is to me, the more I try to win them over.

1 2 3 4 5     I tend to be a compulsive caretaker.

1 2 3 4 5     I have a hard time telling the truth, because it may hurt someone.

1 2 3 4 5     I have a very difficult time doing things just for me.

1 2 3 4 5     I work more than 45 hours per week.

1 2 3 4 5     I will go to great lengths to get approval.